Why can’t I stay motivated?

Why is it so hard to stay motivated?-3Have you had conversations with yourself or others around the theme of why can’t I stay motivated to exercise?  

Are the conversations getting old?

The crazy paradox here is that what works is right under our nose.  Motivation science reveals conclusive information about what works for temporary motivation and what works for motivation that lasts forever—and there is a big difference. We have focused way too much on those temporary motivators, like losing weight, incentives, and challenges. Unfortunately, temporary motivators will just not work when it comes to exercise because our body is a use it to keep it system.  We need to tap into the principles, known truths, about the best way to approach exercise and about lasting motivation to enjoy lasting benefits.

We have the information we need to end the struggle for exercise motivation! The key is blending all we know about how the brain and body work best, in a way we can easily use every day.  That is our mission here at Whole-person Fitness!

Join the Whole-person Fitness community in our Exercise Motivation Revolution.

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Ready for some motivation inspiration?

Ready for somemotivation inspiration?We’ve been exploring what drains and what sustains motivation for exercise, but we know that information does not automatically lead to motivation. Lasting change is a process and changing your mindset about exercise and motivation takes time and practice.

How do I know? First because the science of change has shown that change does not happen overnight—it is a process and it happens in stages. Second, because I have been through this process with many people struggling specifically with motivation for exercise.

Based on what I have learned over the past three decades, I am creating tools for you to use this blend of science and experience to create your sustainable exercise motivation. If you have spent long enough draining your motivation for exercise with trying to be ‘good’ and do what you should do, wasted too much time and money on gadgets and intense programs to keep you motivated, click here to sign up for my email list.

I’ll soon be sharing some free tools for understanding motivation and clearing the motivation drains because I want you to discover how possible it is to keep yourself motivated. These tools for more reliable and sustainable ways to get what you want from exercise are only available to those on my list, so sign up today.


Janet 🙂

Turning exercise information into motivation, summary

Turning exercise information into motivation, part 3-6.pngOver the past eight weeks, we’ve been sorting through the information about exercise that is meant to motivate, but in the end, drains motivation. We are led to believe you:

  • Need someone to motivate you
  • Should exercise
  • Can get quick and amazing results
  • Need lots of accountability
  • Need to suffer to get results
  • Are good if you exercise and bad if you don’t
  • Can find the answers you need on the internet
  • Just need to burn more calories

These beliefs are part of the reason there’s a drought of motivation for exercise. They are so imbedded in our culture and our exercise mindset, it’s hard to believe that not struggling would actually work. We equate exercise with struggling so strongly that an easier way sounds like a cop-out. Yet, the struggle isn’t increasing our exercise motivation and there is another way.

For the past thirty years, I have been asking the question “why is it so difficult to stay motivated for exercise?” I have poured over the science of how the brain and the body work separately. I have shared it with those who struggle with their exercise motivation and watched them use it to find the way out of the struggle. It takes unlearning what does not work and learning skills for being your own best source for lasting motivation, but the great news is, it’s easier than you may think.

If you are ready to end the struggle with exercise motivation,  I am excited to share it with you! Stay tuned because more information on how to be your own best motivator is coming soon.

Turning exercise information into motivation, part 8

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Thanks to technology, information about how many calories you burn with exercise can be right at your fingertips. Burning calories can feel motivating, especially when you see how many calories are in certain foods. Yikes! I ate 1000 calories last night and only burned 400 in my workout!!! I better get to the gym today to burn that off!

And so it goes. Those little numbers keep us moving, pushing to burn off what we ate. We play this numbers game in hopes of someday winning at weight loss. Well, if it makes us move, what’s the problem?

Here are some of them.

Stuck in “never enough”. It takes only a few seconds to consume the calories it would take you an hour to burn off. This numbers game can keep us feeling like we could never do enough exercise.

Unreliable. The calories burned during exercise is a rough estimate. It even changes day to day for the same exercise. It’s like trying to balance your checkbook with a rough estimate of your expenses—how would that work? We put way too much stock in the equation of calories in, calories out.  The calories out part is just not accurate enough to make it work for weight loss.

We miss out. The estimated calories burned per minute during stretching and strength training are much lower than for cardio. It seems smarter to do cardio because you can get a better return on your time investment. Yet stretching can make you feel better and strength training can make you function better (not to mention it increases metabolism much more than cardio does).

Drains the enjoyment. When the goal is to burn as many calories as possible with the limited time you have, enjoying exercise is not the goal. If enjoying exercise sounds like an oxymoron to you, this is a BIG red flag that it’s time to exercise for reasons other than calorie burning.

As humans, we are just not motivated by concepts. We are motivated by how we feel.  Playing the numbers game, living in the state of “never enough” can leave us feeling exhausted, frustrated, and discouraged. These are not feelings that sustain your motivation to keep exercising.

The biggest irony here is that when exercise leaves you feeling worse, you are moving in the opposite direction of the reason you probably want to lose weight in the first place—to feel better, have more energy, be comfortable in your skin, be free to enjoy life a bit more.

Want to stay motivated to exercise to help you lose weight? Don’t exercise for weight loss! Cover up the calories burned number. Ignore the programs touting maximum calorie burning. Block the articles about tricking your body into burning more calories (e.g., muscle confusion). Quit the calorie burning game once and for all.

Instead, exercise to feel better and function better, now and each day going forward. You will discover more sustainable motivation and be more likely to win what you ultimately want from weight loss.

Turning exercise information into motivation, part 7

Turning exercise information into motivation, part 3In this series, we’ve looked at how the flood of exercise information has had little effect on the drought of exercise motivation. Fitness marketers know that consistency builds trust. They rely on the fact that when our brain hears and sees the same thing over and over, it is more believable. When we repeatedly hear and see similar messages about exercise and motivation (like the messages I talked about here), our brain is convinced it is the way to go. The whispers of truth in the research journals are drowned out by the noise of popular fitness media.

Listening to those messages often leads to going back and forth between two mindsets—looking for something that will get you motivated or doing a program that you hope will help you stay motivated. Over time, this viscous cycle can lead to the conclusion “I am just not an exerciser” and wipe out your motivation for exercise.

The fact is, if you are struggling to get and stay motivated, it’s because of our typical approach to exercise, not your genetic traits or a personal shortcoming. How do we get out of this struggle? By tuning out the noise and listening to what science tells us about how the brain and body work. The information we need most is not found out there. The answers have been inside you the whole time:

  • Exercise motivation stems from what you value, not what you “should” do.
  • You are in charge of your motivation, it can’t be outsourced.
  • Kindness motivates. Criticism de-motivates.
  • When exercise leaves you feeling better each time, you want to keep coming back for more.
  • You are already whole. You don’t need to achieve a fitness goal to prove that.
  • Your body is a miracle to be cared for, not a problem to be fixed.

Shifting our cultural mindset about exercise will take some time. Shifting your own mindset only takes a moment when you know t
hat the source of lasting motivation is right inside you.  It starts with trusting your body and yourself.